You do not have to be an expert to recognise there are a growing number of sexual fetishes that grow and evolve every year. The vast majority of sexual, or non-sexual kinks or fetishes will involve steel, leather, and control and restraint (bondage) equipment. There are of course exceptions to this, for instance, kinks involving costume play or hosiery.
Let's face it, the vast majority of people do not openly talk about their fetishes. Bondage is one of the more popular fetishes for both men and women. Bondage gives dominance and control over another person, in a mutually accepted way.
This post is dedicated to an important element in bondage play; Bondage Safety.
Bondage Safety
What was once viewed as a "bondage" obsession is presently advancing into bed rooms all over the world, so it's vital to follow a few guidelines to ensure your bondage play is fulfilling and safe. When done effectively, bondage can be a private, erotic and sexy experience for all involved.
While you may not yet take an interest in the more extreme types of bondage, for example, self-bondage, you ought to in any case exercise safety in even the least complex practices. So you need to be sexy and safe with your bondage play, here are a few quick tips to kick you off...
Safety in Words
Being open and honest and verbalizing is critical when you set up to enjoy any kind of BDSM play, particularly one that includes restraints and disabling their mobility and reflexes. You need to discuss with your partner before you start what you are comfortable and not comfortable in doing. You won't know the amount you'll appreciate it until you do it, yet don't be hesitant to talk up if something is not being enjoyed.
If you think your partner is feeling uneasy with something you're doing to them, stop promptly until they let you know. What your fantasy dream may in fact be their nightmare. Say your partner enjoys being blindfolded amid kissing or oral sex doesn't imply that they will appreciate being tied up, as well. The sentiment being blindfolded and bound can be very frightening in any case, so take as much time as necessary, so don't rush it.
One of the best techniques for permitting you and your lover to stop a bondage action is the utilization of a safe word. Basically, a safe word is a verbal indication by bondage participants to promptly stop an action that is taking place that they are not comfortable with.
Since some BDSM exercises include a specific measures of pain and delight, basically saying, "no" or "stop" isn't sufficient to stop something you are not comfortable with, in light of the fact that these expressions can regularly be translated as pretend. Pick a word that is disconnected to sex so that you're both sure of its significance when it is talked amid a S&M session.
Common words are 'red' for stop, 'green' for enjoying it, or 'orange' I am a bit uncomfortable with what is going on so slow down until I am sure I want to go further.
Physical Safety
Alongside words to guarantee safe bondage play, there are physical approaches to guarantee the security of your lover (or 'base'), or your well-being in case you're playing a bit more hardcore. Here are some things to go over before you start any new type of bondage play:
- Talk to your partner about what you plan to do;
- Agree on a safe word should you feel uncomfortable or encounter any torment;
- If your partner has been choked and can't verbally convey your security word, give them an item to drop on the floor when they need the session to stop for any reason. A ball, ringer or book functions admirably in such circumstances;
- Never put a rope or sling around somebody's throat unless it is a collar around the neck;
- Never use a think lead around your partners neck;
- Avoid restraints if they are going to make your partner uncomfortable;
- Keep checking to ensure hands and feet aren't getting frosty or turning blue, as this is an indication of poor blood course and you should stop;
- Never leave your partner alone it they are tied up;
- Make duplicates of any keys required as a part of your bondage toys in case you lose the first keys. You need to be able to release your bondage mate quickly;
- Test all your equipment before use each time;
- Use sex toy cleaners or equivalent on all your bondage toys to evade microscopic organisms developing and bring down the danger of infection or disease, particularly if your toys are part of S&M exercises; and
- Always think things through first and ensure that there is a method available for escape whilst restrained.
We have a fabulous selection of bondage equipment for you to explore your bondage fetishes. The basic equipment includes restraints, crops/whips/floggers, collars & leashes, and gags. For the more adventurous and experienced enthusiasts, sex machines, and electro-sex are worth exploring. If you are worried about mess, protect your bed sheets and play safely with play sheets that are waterproof and able to withstand hardcore action.
Importantly, have fun and always practice mutual respect...
